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Round2
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Hi everyone Dont really know what to say or where to begin never thought id be back here again. My son is 16 and has an eating disorder again. First fought his battle at 11. This time round its so different but getting advice and help is still so hard especially because he is 16. Going to ring the doctors tomorrow but dont hold out much hope of getting help and getting my son there either.Any advice would be grateful as it seems so much more frighting the second time round.Its the start of a very long slow marathon!! My thoughts with you all and your loved ones battling.
Posted on September 18, 2011 at 3:21 PM
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ianfromchester
Total Posts: 2
Joined: Sep 2011
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hi
HI have a look at the men get eating disorders too website, there maybe some useful info on there. I can understand your terror at this being round two of the battle against your sons ED. My main advise to you would be start by using what seemed to work the first time round, and explore what has triggered the illness off again now your son has got older.
Posted on September 23, 2011 at 8:55 AM
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ivktyr
Total Posts: 27
Joined: Feb 2011
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re: Son battling again
Hi, the only advice I can give re the Drs is to stress the fact that this has happened before (I assume you son was actually diagnosed last time?) so you do know what you are talking about. Don't let them just fob you off with the "it's just a phase ..." etc etc. Your son has a history of this so it needs to be taken seriously.
Posted on September 23, 2011 at 10:57 AM
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suzyness
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re: Son battling again
Hello,
I am having similar difficulties with help and advice as my daughter is also 16. Her rights to confidentiality and choice have suddenly made treatment a lot harder to strive for and my responsibility as a parent means not a lot.
I managed to see the doctor on Thursday and although she could refer my daughter to the eating disorder team she won't without her asking for it herself, which I know she won't. So we are stuck.
I really hope you get the help and your son will take it up.
Take care.
Posted on September 24, 2011 at 12:27 PM
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Round2
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Joined: Sep 2011
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re: Son battling again
Thanks for your replys. Went to the doctors they said he has really low blood pressure caused by lack of food and drink. They wanted to put him on drugs to increase his appetite!!! Son actually said i know i have to eat and its only me that can make myself better. Since doctors though has started to weigh food and exercise so backward step. Only way got help last time was taking him to A&E one night they were great cause of them got to see an ed specialists within 2 weeks.The day after seeing him he was admitted to an ed clinic cause so ill. This time round he eats but not enough.So scared and coping alone this time rnd. Thanks again
Posted on September 25, 2011 at 2:15 PM
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ivktyr
Total Posts: 27
Joined: Feb 2011
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re: Son battling again
Hi, both there are ways to get your s / d treated without their agreement, it is possible to get them sectioned. Not sure how you go about this as it's not something we ever had to consider. May be worth ringing the beat helplines to see what your options are.
Steve
Posted on September 26, 2011 at 2:25 PM
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Round2
Total Posts: 3
Joined: Sep 2011
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re: Son battling again
Have got the help Everyone is bending over to help my son but he is having none of it. The doctors have got the mental health involved now so dont know what to do from here. He has everything going for him just landed a job and though the doctors want him to give it up they were willing to try it his way if he increased weight and go to see them every week which his work were fine with. He doesnt want to go and now eating way less to Dont want to agree to have him admitted but have tried screaming at him, talking to him even tried to throw him out as i said im not going watch him die So scared and really dont know what to do for the best.As been told him gaining to quickly will be bad but if they admit him that will happen. Sorry for running on just feeling like im banging my head agaisnt a wall. Love to you all as i know we are all suffering so sorry for whining
Posted on November 19, 2011 at 11:46 AM
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yogahelps
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re: Son battling again
Hi R2. Really sorry you're going through this again. You remind me of how I was 18 months ago when my d, now 16, was first diagnosed, I tried every conceivable tactic to get her to see sense including the shouting and threatening not to let her do certain things which relied on me for lifts and pocketmoney etc etc. Ultimately and with a lot of rehearsal and getting it wrong I managed to get to the calm, empathising approach which yielded a very different reaction and got my d to open up. I wonder have you read the book 'Skills-based Learning for Caring for a Loved One with an Eating Disorder: The New Maudsley Method' by Janet Treasure and Gráinne Smith. Available on Amazon etc. I had to read it at least 3 times to get the plot and have lots of help from the home crisis team in how to handle things, but now we're managing and d appears to be finally on her way with recovery, but still has a ways to go and she has set-backs here and there which I've learned to be calm about rather than hit the roof. Great therapists are also an essential part of the mix as sufferers are contending with an overwhelming mountain of issues which often they just cannot handle on their own. I wish you all the best. Jenny xx
Posted on November 22, 2011 at 12:50 PM
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